God alone knows how long it has been since I have posted something in this blog. Lots of things happened. 2010 was full of hullabaloo as we were to tie the nuptial knot in early 2011. Shopping never sounded nightmarish to me till the time the wedding bells were heard. From a simple sandalwood powder to 6 yards of wedding apparel , from a tissue to the groom’s tuxedo – it was a frightening yet fascinating ride.
To keep your cool and smile while your rear is on fire is something we learnt during this phase. From booking of the marriage banquet to the dinner menu to the guest list to the train, bus and finally honeymoon reservations, we arranged all with supervision and wisdom passed down by our families of course .. doesn’t that sound crazy? Well essentially it was crazier than it sounds. Living nearly 1300 miles away from home, it is practically impossible to get things organized as per your wish with everyone’s approval. The thought of the D-day keeps haunting you till it is all over.
Before long we were already celebrating New Year and there the day was, less than a month away smiling and waving at us, we could see it in a brief distance though still could not believe it. With all the racket at our feet, leave approvals and denials at work, packing and re packing and last minute changes and adjustments (not to forget the confirmation & vouchers of our week long gateway & money conversion as we were to head for our honeymoon right after the rituals got over ) we were on the train for home, to get married !!
Once we reached our respective homes, things were out of bounds, out of control. We had left it to God at the end because of one chaotic situation leading to another. I still remember the brief chats we had during those days, all we both wanted was everything to get over easily so that we could slip into our honeymoon slippers and spend a relaxed week at one of the secluded Mauritian beaches! It looked distant then but as time loves to, it moved on at its own pace.
Suddenly there we were, eating our last bachelor meals, our families inviting river Ganges to bless our auspicious ceremony, making offerings to our forefathers, getting drenched in turmeric, breaking our respective bachelorhood and declaring the same aloud to all present, fasting, getting all decked up, chanting hymns and finally on the 26th day of January 2011 at 11:50 pm, we signed the legal doom.
Today after all these months when I look back, it gives me immense joy and pride as I understand that all the chaos lead to a successful ceremony, all the confusion on the destination lead to a magnificent honeymoon and every bit of panic, fury, sweat, the fits of laughter, the aching tears over so many years lead to us being together, always, till death do us apart.
A feeling of emptiness also surrounds my spirit when I look back at the past year, somehow today I feel, it got over too soon. Today I wish, if we could have got some more time to do our last minute arrangements, some more time to make it more faultless, some more time to make it the best, perfect perhaps. It hurts to appreciate the biggest occasion of our lives just got over, with the wink of an eye.
Very nice article! Although I am not married yet, but this article is making me stand in that position and understand the whole situation people, especially girls go through when they are getting married. On one side, they are excited about their life partner, on the other side shes sad because shes leaving her own house. On top of that, the excitement of shopping, which of course every girl enjoy, yet each and every chaotic moments when the friends are relatives are visiting everyday..This article indeed is very interesting..thank you for posting such a wonderful article.. :)
ReplyDelete